My 18-year-old daughter got married recently. This was one of those situations where things moved quickly, which is always concerning to parents.
Needless to say, we were concerned. Concerned for all the reasons you might expect and more.
We sat down over coffee with both of them and expressed our concerns. They listened well, even acknowledging our concerns. They responded. We listened.
They decided to move forward.
So last week, we stood with them in front of the judge as they said their vows to each other. They were so happy. We immersed ourselves in the moment, with them taking a ton of pictures, laughing, and teasing.
Also, the judge had a very strong mustache game. Even actors Sam Elliott (1883) and Tom Selleck (Blue Bloods) would be jealous, though they both have amazing mustaches, too.
So after vows were said, the “you’re husband and wife” proclamation was made, and the kissing was done (younger sisters were grossed out), I had words with my new son-in-law.
I told him, “Welcome to the family. You’re one of us now. We will do everything thing in our power to support you two in your marriage without sticking our noses where they don’t belong.”
And we will strive to do just that.
God is always faithful to take what is concerning in our day-to-day and turn it into celebration. To take our worries, and give them meaning. And while life never promises to be perfect, I do find comfort in knowing that God’s steady hand is on everything, no matter if I’m concerned, or celebratory.